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The Real Joy of Living

Nelson Mandela once remarked that he befriended his jailers; those grim, khaki-clad overseers of his decades of hard labor in a limestone quarry, by “exploiting their good qualities.” Asked if he believed that all people were kind at their core, he responded, “There is no doubt whatsoever, provided you are able to arouse their inherent goodness.” If that sounds like wishful thinking, then think again, because Mandela actually did it.

I believe that the real joy of living comes from the goodness you express to others without expecting any reciprocal feelings. We tend to expect people to be kind to us if we are kind to them. But most of the time it doesn’t work that way unfortunately, because of the inherent selfishness of humanity. Unless you have been programmed to be kind by parents and teachers, nature intervenes with a rule of “only if I feel like it.” If you want to change your life and help others do the same by arousing their “inherent goodness,” then here are a few areas worth reflecting on:

Patience
The art of patience is difficult to develop because it demands you to be tolerant. An old Indian saying states: “Vanquish an angry person by your gentleness.” This means that being tolerant and patient is especially important in those moments when you feel the urge to reach out and reduce someone’s life span.

Kindness
Goodness in action is kindness and love of others. Start today and think of the many ways in which you can “exploit” your own good qualities, as Mandela would say, by giving, not just in terms of money, but by offering encouragement or assistance to people around you who are struggling with their job or personal life.

Intellect
Intellect is what you know, not necessarily how clever or intelligent you are. This can be improved by developing your knowledge of the billions of things you don’t currently know. Join a library or scour the internet and discover all the amazing facts available to you. Then use this knowledge to improve your personal development, help others and as an interesting point of conversation.

Compassion for Others
Compassion is a powerful means of showing kindness to other people who are experiencing physical or mental anguish. Compassion essentially arises through empathy, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. The key to developing compassion is to make it a daily practice. It is one of the few things which can bring long-term happiness to your life and others. Think about it when you interact with others, and meditate on it in your quiet moments until it becomes a part of your life.

Taking Action
You recognize a tree by its fruit. Therefore, other people will recognize you by the actions you take to develop the qualities of goodness and kindness, and in your positive expectations for the future. Who wants to hang around a negative self-centered person?

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Bruce Lee’s Top 20 Tips for Living a Successful Life

Bruce Lee Statue in Hong KongWhen I grew up, Bruce Lee was one of my biggest role models, and he still is.

He accomplished more in ten years than most people do in a lifetime. So I decided to gather Bruce Lee’s most inspirational quotes in one place.

The quotes below are what I believe it takes to live a successful life and have success in life. These quotes will inspire, motivate, and encourage you to go after your dreams.

With all that said here are Bruce Lee’s top 20 tips for living a successful life.

1. Apply What You Learn

“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.”

How many people do you know that read a lot of books and spend a lot of time buying courses, but never apply the knowledge they learn?

You may even notice these tendencies in your life. It’s hard to take action and apply what you learn, because we’re all afraid of failure, and taking action can be paralyzing from time to time.

 

However, success in life doesn’t happens until you use the knowledge that you have inside of you. Most of us have exactly what we need to get to our goals, but we make excuses not to even get started.

2. Learn, Discard, Create

“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.”

It’s all well and good to learn from others, but it’s not until you take action that you discover what works and doesn’t.

When you discover what doesn’t work, you simply discard it and keep going. When you keep moving forward, you will create your own path.

Living a successful life is all about experimenting and trying new things. The more things you try, the closer you will get to true success.

3. Simplicity

“Simplicity is the key to brilliance.”

If you can simplify your life, your goals, and your tasks, you will not only be happier, you will also get more done and be more successful.

It was not until I started focusing on one single task and one major goal in my life that I started seeing rapid results in the direction of my dreams.

If you’re trying to go after multiple things at once, you will end up accomplishing none of them. Pick one thing that’s the most important to you and go after that.

The funny thing about focusing on one goal is that it seems that you’re neglecting all the others aspects of your life, but when you focus on one goal, magically the other aspects of your life improve, sometimes dramatically.

4. Break Barriers

“Using no way as way, using no limitation as limitation.”

We all have negative beliefs that stop us from being as successful in life as we would like.

The only person holding you back is you. Once you become comfortable with overcoming your fears, you will start seeing dramatic success in your life.

One of the most common characteristics of successful people is that they are willing to try new things and face their fears. They are not fearless, they are merely willing to do what it takes.

5. Be Open-Minded

“Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.”

There’s no right or wrong in the universe. It’s completely subjective.

Getting caught up in the drama of who is right or wrong or who is better than will only distract you from reaching your goals and creating a successful life.

Stay open to new possibilities, and the viewpoints of others. You can never know what you will learn when you explore things you at first thought were pure nonsense.

6. Contribute

“Real living is living for others.”

It wasn’t until I found my passion and started contributing to the world with my writing that I started feeling fulfilled.

We all have our unique gifts that we can use to make the world a better place. These are usually talents and skills you have that you are very good at, and that you like to do.

It doesn’t matter if you like to make jewelry or if you enjoy cooking, because everything is connected to everything else.

You are here to make a difference with the talents you have. There’s a reason why you are you.

7. Manage Your Time

“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”

We are surrounded by distractions, such as e-mail, Twitter, and Facebook. They are great at connecting us to each other, but they distract us from what is truly important.

Learn to manage your time, and get the most valuable tasks done before you start to play. Use time management courses to get your life in order.

You can often double, triple, or even quadruple your productivity by using just a few simple time management tips.

A good one that I use is to write down the three most important tasks for the next day before I go to bed.

8. Be Flexible

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”

Life will throw curve balls at you, so you have to get used to being flexible. The more comfortable you can be with being uncomfortable, the faster you will grow as a human being and the more success you will have in life.

This is exactly what distinguishes successful people from unsuccessful ones. Successful people are more willing to be uncomfortable, because they know that that is the fastest path to their goals.

Whenever you bump into something that makes you feel bad, stay flexible, and find the positive in the situation. I’ve found that most of the problems in my life are blessings in disguise.

The only thing separating positivity from negativity is time.

9. Set Goals

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”

If you want to create your dream life you want you first have to know what you want. For the longest time I avoided setting goals, because I thought it was unnecessary.

It wasn’t until recently that I discovered that goal setting can not only make me more productive, it can also dramatically increase the clarity I have.

When you set goals, use the S.M.A.R.T criteria, which stands for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely goals.

10. Be Patient

“A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.”

One of my weaknesses is my impatience. However, I’ve learned to channel my impatience into getting more done and being productive.

It’s also important to realize that most of the things that are truly valuable in life take time.

For example, I discovered that creating an online business usually takes anywhere from 3 to 5 years, if your goal is a full-time income.

Whatever you do, keep taking small steps each day toward your primary goal, and you will be surprised at how much you can accomplish in just a few years.

11. Kill the Box

“All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.”

It’s easy to get into a rut, which is simply a familiar pattern that feels comfortable. If you truly want to grow as a person and lead a successful life, you have to get out of the box.

In fact, throw the box out altogether, and start following your heart wherever it leads you. This can be as simple as following your highest excitement in the moment.

Most people are stuck in their minds and never listen to their heart’s deepest desire. Don’t let this be you.

12. Control Your Thoughts

“As you think, so shall you become.”

What you think about, you draw into your life. If you’re constantly being negative, you will draw more negativity into your life.

Instead of focusing on the negative, think about what you want to get out of life and focus on the positive.

This is another way of telling you that you have to set goals and focus on those goals as often as possible. The results you will get by doing this will be dramatic.

Most people sit around whining about their miserable life, and then they wonder why nothing good ever happens to them.

13. Take Action

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”

Don’t over analyze and over think. Take massive action even if things aren’t perfect before you start.

Most people that try to get things perfect never get started at all.

I used to be a perfectionist, but I realized that by taking action, I could get much more done and make much more progress.

I also realized that people don’t want perfect. They just want solutions to their problems.

14. Allow

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

It’s easy to get stuck on what other people would think of you if you became successful. Most people are so afraid of this that they never rise above mediocrity.

It is not up to you to make people happy. You can only make yourself happy, and the way others react is just the way they will react.

Don’t let other people dictate how you live your life. Determine what you want, go after it, and don’t look back. You will be much happier for it.

15. Create Your Own Destiny

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”

You can make all the excuses in the world, but nothing happens until you stop blaming your circumstances or people in your life, and take control of your life.

It is up to you to take responsibility for your life and create your own opportunities. You may not be able to do exactly what you want right now, but you have the opportunity to take steps toward it.

No one will create the dream life for you. You have to do it yourself.

16. Be You

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

As I said earlier, you were born with unique talents, gifts, and skills. When you try to be someone you’re not, you will only attract people into your life that are not in harmony with you.

When you are you, and that includes the weird things about you, you will find that the most amazing and interesting people start popping up in your life.

Sometimes this may take years, and sometimes it can happen in just a few days. Let whatever happens be okay and go with the flow.

17. Have Integrity

“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect”

No success in life is worth it unless you have integrity.

It’s very hard to find people that are honest and have integrity as one of their highest values. It’s easy to throw in a lie here and there and try to manipulate people.

Only conscious people realize that this won’t make anyone happy in the long term. It might get you what you want in the short-term but it’s not a recipe for happiness.

Live with integrity, and people will respect you. And best of all, you will respect yourself which is a very desirable character trait.

18. Learn the Rules, Break the Rules

“Obey the principles without being bound by them.”

If you want success in life, learn what other successful people have done to get to where they are.

It’s important to learn the principles of success, but not be bound by them. Once you know what you need to do, follow your heart and your intuition.

If you want to learn how to create a profitable website for example, I recommend you sign up for a training course, and follow the instructions step-by-step.

Once you start seeing success, you can start breaking the rules and begin experimenting.

19. Do Things for You

“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”

Life is not about impressing other people. If you try to show off, it will backfire.

And if you try to seek the approval of others, it will just make you miserable. The only person that needs to approve of you is you.

This goes hand in hand with many of the quotes above. You can only be you, and it is not until you reclaim your unique self that you can be truly great.

20. Believe in Yourself

“You just wait. I’m going to be the biggest Chinese Star in the world.”

Last, but definitely not least are the expectations you have of yourself. Your beliefs will determine the success you have in life.

There are ways to overcome limiting beliefs and negative expectations, but nothing happens until you accept that they exist within you.

And nothing happens until you take full responsibility for the life that you have created in this very moment.


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Crossing the Line

© Charles Donoghue APS, FNZIM
Performance Psychology Coach

enjoy lifeTo cope with life and all it’s challenges you have to accept the fact that change is inevitable as life does not stand still. Nature is proof of that. Time is moving on, planets change and according to scientists, even the sun is decreasing in size. Clouds change, plants grow and die, all human life dies. Once you can accept all this, it is time to adapt to the changes in the world without losing your own individual identity and spiritual being. You can maintain that identity by taking control over your own mind. There are some things in life over which you have a certain amount of control such as relationships, decision-making, and the directions you choose to go in but you have no control over the weather, traffic lights or earthquakes.
Too many individuals carry their past experiences into the present and without being fully aware of the fact that they are actually living IN the past. In order to cope with the future and it’s changes and challenges, we have to understand the concept of what I call the ‘LINE.’ The line represents the present as we move through time. On one side of the line we have the past moments of our living where we did and said things that we wished we hadn’t said and done. There are also the good and positive things that we experienced, however, it makes no difference whether they were good or bad, they happened through the choices we made, good or bad. In other words we are where we are today because of choices. Unfortunately we cannot remake those choices of the past. The line keeps moving; we are constantly on the move time-wise, and on this other side of the line is the power you hold over your future which lies in the choices you make and the control you take over your life.
You have some control over many situations, through the medium of adaptation, such as changing jobs, technology, or even the world economy. Electronic technology is a big constant part of this. There is a choice to adapt to this power or ignore its advance and suffer the consequences as many businesses are just beginning to realize.
One of the greatest tools at your disposal is mind power, an area totally underestimated by many. In the past, business strategic planning was predicated on management skills and knowledge. Sales growth was driven by “motivation” and “sales” principles or techniques. Today you have to think differently in order to adapt to the great metamorphosis taking place in the hi-tech world we live in especially, in light of the recent global financial melt-down. No longer can businesses rely on old strategies. The greatest power that corporations can utilize, is to teach mega-thinking to Management and Staff. What we are talking about is not thinking big, but big thinking; a quantum leap in creating more use of the billions of brain cells that everyone possesses.
The human brain is incredibly adaptive to change. Our mental capacity is astonishingly large, and our ability to process widely varied information and complex new experiences with relative ease can often be surprising. The brain’s ability to act and react in ever-changing ways is referred to by neuroscientists as “neuroplasticity.” This special characteristic allows the brain’s estimated 100 billion nerve cells to constantly lay down new pathways for neural communication and to rearrange existing ones throughout life, thereby aiding the processes of learning, memory, and adaptation through experience.
Research by neuroscientists over the past decade or so, has proven that our neural connections do not ever reach, by some late age, a fixed pattern that thereafter cannot change. Rather, the ongoing process of brain cell connection reformation and death of the cell, is what gives the brain its plasticity – its ability to learn and remember, to adapt to its environment and all the challenges brought with it, to acquire new knowledge and learn from fresh experiences – throughout an individual’s lifetime.
Neuroplasticity can work in two directions; it is responsible for deleting old connections as frequently as it enables the creation of new ones and thus laying the groundwork for adaptation to new ideas and concepts. In business as well as in your personal life, this opens up unlimited possibilities.
Change is an integral part of today’s business climate. Those business owners, managers or employees who make a choice to initiate and embrace change will forge ahead of their competitors, while those who remain static in their thinking and fear change, will recede and remain in ignorance if they think that resisting new ideas and adaptive changes will prevent those changes from happening.
Many companies and individuals will be content to survive by playing it safe because of some fear. They might even be good at giving all the best reasons why this particular change is not right for the business, the organization, or the customer. However, their underlying concern may be their fear about how the change will affect them, their job, and their lives.

Its time to cross the line and create a profitable future!

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Change your state of mind and you change your circumstances.

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is
always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison

Many people have experience difficult and challenging periods in their lives especially financial ones, yet managed to overcome them. How? They adopted an attitude of “It’s either sink or swim – the choice is mine.”
No matter what difficulties you are experiencing including financial ones, you cannot allow them to overcome you. It is a state of mind. You get more of what you focus on. By programming your sub-conscious mind and your expectations for the future, your awareness becomes heightened and then instead of focussing on lack of money, focus on income generation; instead of focussing on health problems focus on health regeneration; instead of lack of sales or business, focus on the keys to relationship building.

What options are there, what opportunities await you to change your circumstances? Are you looking or just waiting for circumstances to change.

Here are the major factors which need to be addressed to overcome the challenges:

• So what are you doing about it?
What do you think is going to happen if you don’t take actionyourself?
• What’s your mindset?
It’s physiologically and psychologically impossible to be depressed
and happy at the same time. Make up your mind
• Not everything is wrong in your life.
You are doing some right things or else you wouldn’t be engaging
in this programme
• You are not the problem. The problem is the problem, so start your
plan to take action to correct it
Charles Donoghue’s 90 Days to Smash It!
• Focus on what you want to happen NOT what you don’t want to
happen
• Do some lateral thinking. What are some possible options, even
ridiculous ones?
• Take stock. Make a list of some of the things you are thankful for and concentrate on them as this will create power positive thinking

Sometimes, when you are feeling down and out and at your wits end, just think, one thought, one idea, can turn it all around for you. Difficult times can be the making of you and force you to bring your imagination to the fore. Difficult times will change your perspective towards life and give you strength to deal with these times.
Everyone needs to know that they can overcome the obstacles blocking their path to financial freedom and fear of failure. Fortunately for you there are hundreds of stories of people who overcame poverty, lack of education, illness, handicaps, racism, sexual discrimination and other obstacles and succeeded and can inspire you to keep striving for your dreams.
A classic story of such a success is J.K. Rawling the billionaire author of the Harry Potter books perhaps the greatest success in publishing history. Twenty years earlier, Rawling was a single mother on welfare who was having a hard time finding enough money for bus fare. Yet she pressed on and clung to her dream of becoming a professional writer and succeeded beyond her wildest dreams. If she could overcome such poverty and achieve success and wealth in her chosen profession, so can you.
Change your state of mind and you change your circumstances.
I will conclude this topic with one of the most famous and powerful quotes by Sir Winston Churchill, the man who lead the United Kingdom through the greatest war in history – World War Two:


“Never, never, never, never ever give up!” – Winston Churchill

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